For many older adults, the thought of not driving provokes feelings of sadness and anger. Older drivers may resent their children or others making decisions for them. It is important to hear and understand the older driver’s concerns.  Here are some things to consider for communicating openly and respectfully about this sensitive topic:

• Most older drivers think of themselves as safe drivers, in fact, safer than younger drivers
• Don’t scold or lecture
• Show them you know how important driving is in their lives
• Explain that their safety, and others is the number one priority
• Be positive and supportive
• If the older driver is your parent, it could be difficult for them to have their child tell them what to do
• To overcome resistance to stop driving, consider discussing the issue with the driver’s spouse, other family members, and health care professionals such as a doctor or driver rehabilitation specialist. Another credible voice may help in discussing these issues
• Assure the older driver of your continued love and support